The Unitarian Fellowship of Huntington

Story from Jason Ridgel MD


The sight of her repulsed me and I hesitated in the doorway of the exam room. She was a grossly overweight woman with coarsely shaved hair on her chin. The loosely fitting housedress was stained and unable to hide her hideously swollen legs that were now red and warm with infection. "you look like the boy that plays the piano at church" she said, giving me a toothless grin. I was ashamed at my hesitation to touch her body.


Over the next few months I managed to rid her of the infection, but it was obvious to me that she could not possibly care for herself with her weight, failing heart, and weak lungs. Her family had abandoned her, but she clung fiercely to that last bit of humanity which was her independence. She refused to leave her apartment for a nursing home. Knowing she could no longer physically get to my office, I took my medical bag and, feeling very altruistic, drove to her tiny apartment.


With my benevolence worn too proudly, I stepped up to her door. There, I was quite shocked to find that her church too had decided to bring itself to the apartment. As the door swung in, I was enveloped in a passionate ecstasy of gospel singing emanating from the throng of people packed shoulder to shoulder 4 deep into that tiny apartment. There, in the middle of the room, bathed in the warmth of human vibrations, sat my patient, smiling. In that moment, I saw her as the beautiful human being that she was. No one in that room saw her differently.


After the singing had finished she gave me a large hug, and thanked me for coming. I, realizing the futility of my actions, wrote out her prescriptions and promised to visit again next week. I could not keep my appointment for she died quietly 3 days later in her apartment. When I think of her now, I do not remember that grotesque body. Instead I see the warmth of people able to forgive a failed-body and embrace a friend with song. Jason Ridgel MID Cleveland, Ohio


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